My son asked me in Ramadhan, “ummi, do you have to pray Qur’an out of Ramadhan also?”
It struck me, hard. We were talking about doing something out of Ramadhan when I mentioned having to pray Qur’an as well. Hence the question. Such an innocent question yet it hit me so forcefully. I do pray Qur’an out of Ramadhan but my time for praying my daily portion is after fajr…when he is sleeping. I was ashamed to realise that out of Ramadhan my son does not see me touch the Qur’an. It got me thinking; what if he had grown up with that impression? Would it have affected his life negatively? Would he have thought that Qur’an is reserved for Ramadhan only; not because he was taught that but because that is what he saw from his role model. Yes, dear brothers and sisters; we are our children’s role models. Children learn more from what their parents do than what they say. So if we want our children to be exemplary human beings we need to be those human beings ourselves.
If we want our children to be modest then we need to don the cloak of modesty.
If we want our children to be generous then we need to open our fists and hearts.
If we want our children to be loving and accepting then we need to stop differentiating between black and white, between surti and memon, between chubby and thin.
If we want our children to be polite and courteous then we need to stop swearing at them, at our spouses, at everybody in general…we need to stop bulldozing our way through life, disregarding the feelings of the people around us.
If we want our children to be kind then we need to show kindness to the sweepers on the street, to the workers we employ, to the beggars who approach us, to the dusty, tired vendors selling their wares under the hot sun.
If we want our children to fear Allah then we need to have that taqwa embedded deep within ourselves.
If we want our children to tread the path of the straight and narrow we need to keep our feet firmly on that path ourselves.
We are the models that our children use to paint the canvasses of their lives, hence our every mark and every blemish will be noted and idealized.
Let us be the people we want our children to grow up to be…
And when you see your reflection in your child then let it be the best possible reflection of yourself.